There are many blogs that are in my drafts waiting to be completed. But since its been more than a year since my last one, I want to post one and hopefully, this could get posted rather than entering drafts.
You are GOOD/BAD only to the extent of what you are allowed to be. So what force allows you to be what you are? I'm not an atheist. But I would definitely not attribute it to God. Next could be your environment. Your parents, relatives, friends, enemies (don't know if there is someone you could term enemy), acquaintances, neighbours, unknown persons tarvelling with you, someone driving on the road, someone serving you food at the restaurant, watchman at your flat. It can be anybody. But do you really think these many people can be the decisive factor in making you GOOD/BAD. I can't buy that argument. So only thing left is YOU. You are the only person who allow yourself to be GOOD/BAD. I can be sure of that. Your mind always is the mixture of both GOOD/BAD. It is your inner desire to be the one that decides whether you are GOOD/BAD. If you decide to be GOOD, you can be. If you are BAD, you have decided to be so. But our natural reaction when we feel we have done something BAD is finding fault with people or situation around us. What we fail to do is that we don't understand our contribution in doing something BAD. Apparently, what I mean by saying BAD things is something you would not do given a chance again in your life.
I have had many occasions in my life where I allowed myself to be BAD. I feel really really bad when I realise it. But the fact of the matter is I have done it. And my thoughts and me are responsible for it. But the most important point here is people tend to forget the BAD you so soon when you have done something GOOD. It hurts more when people do so. But I feel, individually one should remember all those incidents and use it as a self control mechanism to avoid making those mistakes/BAD moments. I have a repository of such incidents. It always plays on my mind whenever the devil in me attempts a similar thing again. I don't repeat that. It's a good virtue in a way. But the problem for me is I keep finding new ways of doing such BAD things. It becomes a lesson everytime. When such things happens, you obviously would have hurt people. I have hurt people. I have hurt my mother, father, uncle, aunt, grandma, friends, sisters, teachers, bosses, colleagues, well-wishers. I have hurt many many people with all such BAD things. It can't be repaired. But all those people have been generous enough to accept me even after I have hurt. That doesn't make me better. Particularly with my mom, aunt, sisters and friends. I take them for granted. I realise I shouldn't repeat it. But I invariably breach it.
The reason why I wanted to share this is, I have seen many people who are not ready to accept the fact that nobody is responsible for their character. They just try to avoid the blame on themselves. There are persons who delay the process being blamed. If you are termed GOOD, its because you have been GOOD to the person saying so. If you are termed BAD, you have been BAD to the person saying so. CONFRONT it. As I said people forget BAD things once you have been GOOD to them. Make it a point to score more Gs than Bs.
You are GOOD/BAD only to the extent of what you are allowed to be. So what force allows you to be what you are? I'm not an atheist. But I would definitely not attribute it to God. Next could be your environment. Your parents, relatives, friends, enemies (don't know if there is someone you could term enemy), acquaintances, neighbours, unknown persons tarvelling with you, someone driving on the road, someone serving you food at the restaurant, watchman at your flat. It can be anybody. But do you really think these many people can be the decisive factor in making you GOOD/BAD. I can't buy that argument. So only thing left is YOU. You are the only person who allow yourself to be GOOD/BAD. I can be sure of that. Your mind always is the mixture of both GOOD/BAD. It is your inner desire to be the one that decides whether you are GOOD/BAD. If you decide to be GOOD, you can be. If you are BAD, you have decided to be so. But our natural reaction when we feel we have done something BAD is finding fault with people or situation around us. What we fail to do is that we don't understand our contribution in doing something BAD. Apparently, what I mean by saying BAD things is something you would not do given a chance again in your life.
I have had many occasions in my life where I allowed myself to be BAD. I feel really really bad when I realise it. But the fact of the matter is I have done it. And my thoughts and me are responsible for it. But the most important point here is people tend to forget the BAD you so soon when you have done something GOOD. It hurts more when people do so. But I feel, individually one should remember all those incidents and use it as a self control mechanism to avoid making those mistakes/BAD moments. I have a repository of such incidents. It always plays on my mind whenever the devil in me attempts a similar thing again. I don't repeat that. It's a good virtue in a way. But the problem for me is I keep finding new ways of doing such BAD things. It becomes a lesson everytime. When such things happens, you obviously would have hurt people. I have hurt people. I have hurt my mother, father, uncle, aunt, grandma, friends, sisters, teachers, bosses, colleagues, well-wishers. I have hurt many many people with all such BAD things. It can't be repaired. But all those people have been generous enough to accept me even after I have hurt. That doesn't make me better. Particularly with my mom, aunt, sisters and friends. I take them for granted. I realise I shouldn't repeat it. But I invariably breach it.
The reason why I wanted to share this is, I have seen many people who are not ready to accept the fact that nobody is responsible for their character. They just try to avoid the blame on themselves. There are persons who delay the process being blamed. If you are termed GOOD, its because you have been GOOD to the person saying so. If you are termed BAD, you have been BAD to the person saying so. CONFRONT it. As I said people forget BAD things once you have been GOOD to them. Make it a point to score more Gs than Bs.
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